An Epic Weekend- A friend's wedding- Photos galore

So i had the most amazing weekend, I was part of something so beautiful, part of a great memory, part of a lovely friendship. It was a friend's wedding, a wedding that resulted in great new friendships being formed & reinforced old ones. The photos suggest that we looked like angels, we indeed felt like angels. We shared excitement, laughter, memories, we shared craziness too. It is 4 days later now & all we have are photos, a thousand photos, lovely memories, we made sure to capture every moment, never mind that there was a photographer assigned & paid to do that, we had to do our own photography, one that wd allow us to access the photos immediately & boy didn't we do it thoroughly. I'm sure we taught the hired photographer a thing or two about photoshoot, poor guy had to capture some of those crazy moments, i doubt he has had to capture such. Which leads me to the Ipad, i love that gadget, takes the worst photos when the lighting isn't good, but with good natural light, the gadget takes brilliant photos and the one thing i love the most is that u can take as many photos as u want without it needing that looooong turnaround time that ur normal camera will need, hence u're able to capture the important moments quickly. That gadget exchanged so many hands, yep, whenever we felt the need to have a moment captured with us in it, we just gladly handed it to someone and politely uttered the words "please take a photo of us, just click here, click as many times as possible", yeah, i'm kinda used to making such requests, the request is of course always accompanied by faith, faith that the person clicking actually knows where to focus, faith that the person clicking has actually included ur face in that photo, faith that the person's hands won't be shaking so that the photo is clear, yep it is always by faith.

One thing i'm happy about is being able to just be happy with my equally crazily happy friends without having to make excuses about it. Just pure clean fun, fooling around, no seriousness, just fun, relaxing, childlike fun. At first i'm sure those watching us were thinking, this can't be real, those ladies can't be seriously be sitting on the floor with their fancy dresses, wait a minute, yeeep, they r sitting allright, wait wait wait, that wasn't the worst of it, but slowly some of them joined us for our crazy photoshoot. The bride was happy to comply too, & boy didn't she just look amazing. You would actually be amazed how amazingly beautiful those photos r, unique yes, but definitely beautiful and on another level. forget the pout, forget the model like poses, this is just sheer brilliance. It is one thing to sit & recall the happenings of the weekend which of course lead to a smile, it is quite another being able to scroll through photos & actually relieve what actually took place over the weekend. Many joined us in our crazy photo sessions, one wd be lying if they said fun wasn't HAD. I'm thankful for a lovely weekend, a memorable weekend, my friend's wedding. 

Chemistry, or lack thereof.....

Have u ever not shared chemistry with someone, not clicked with them,not found any bit of anything in common with them & even if there was, what does it matter, the point is, u share no chemistry, u just can't stand them, their presence, their voice, their jokes, their aura...everything. What am i asking, of course u have. How do u deal with such situations? Do u force urself, do u manage to share a room with them, do u manage to force urself to laugh at their unfunny jokes, coz lets face it, when u don't click with someone, any jokes they attempt to share will never be funny. Does the problem lie with the person u don't share chemistry with or is it with u who shares no chemistry with them that has the problem? Is it easier to pretend? Can u pretend to laugh when deep down u really don't find the "funny"? Besides common courtesy of being polite to them, do u owe them anything beyond that? Should u force a friendship with someone u don't click with? Should u be blamed for not going further than demonstrate common courtesy to someone u feel u can never be friends with if called upon to do so? Should it take much effort to click with someone? Is there need for something to have happened to cause the lack of chemistry or is it possible for it to just be automatic? Mmmmhhhhh, ok clearly i don't have the answers. What i know is, it happens, sometimes the chemistry just isn't there.......U shouldn't have to force it, if its not there, it just isn't there.......

Friendships, laughter, the best medicine........

Do you ever take stock of the people you call friends, do you ever wonder if they value you as much as you value them, do you think you value your friends enough, do you have a criteria for choosing friends, what kind of behaviour do you look out for when considering being friends with someone, do you even have friends, or need them for that matter?????

Personally i’ve found that the easiest way to be friends with me is humour. Simple as that, if you lack it, let’s face it, we won't b friends. If you misunderstand my humour, it is that simple, we won't be friends, if I have to occasionally explain what I meant when I said something, clearly you don't understand me, we can’t be friends. Each time I've found myself being questioned about what I meant when I said something in social networks, I simply apologized, then unfollowed the person from my profile, so that I wouldn't be tempted to make the same mistake again.  Humour with me comes naturally. Once you possess humour, we can move on quite smoothly from there. After all, if we are to spend time together, there has got to be humour shared right, no matter how serious the situation is. Laughter makes the heart merry, laughter makes the world go round, laughter makes you forget about any drama that may surround you that has taken over your life, even if for a second, laughter soothes the soul. If you can have someone to share laughter with, someone who can make you laugh genuinely, someone whose jokes you sometimes recall & find yourself laughing to yourself, you have found a friend.

I do time & again find myself in situations where I have to respond, comment & unable to do so without being sarcastic, yet at the same time knowing very well that the person I have to respond to, won't get me or worse, take offence..... When this happens, if possible, I do turn to my friends for intervention to respond on my behalf & pray their wisdom will manage the situation. I do restrain myself time & again when faced with a serious situation. Rest assured though, if I have to restrain myself when responding, you r definitely NOT my friend.

Loyalties can come later, sharing memories can come later, but first & foremost if we can share laughter, we r truly on a road to a potentially great friendship....... Say cheers if you have a friend you know makes you laugh..........