So this particular post is a summary of many many status updates I made on this day in 2013 on FB, I'm not sure what brought it on, but I thought maybe I should just put all of what I said on that day together into one long blogpost, so here goes.
FACT: Part of growing up is realizing that not everyone that claims to be your friend will wish you well. Most will watch and hope you fail.....yep n while you are aware of that fact you will still call them your friends *smile*. Some friends you will relate to only due to habits...I would therefore never then expect these friends to be supportive to the extent of me telling them my challenges. #KnowYourFriends
Then there are some Friends to whom "the glass is always half empty"....they'll never give you a compliment or be happy when you have good news to share, e.g you will say, I got a new job in Matsapha, n he will say, but Matsapha is far from Mbabane...yes burst my bubble.
Some friends will believe everything you write on FB...I feel sorry for those friends......I think those are not friends, those are groupies.....then there are those who will like you more than you like them...call it difference in personalities or chemistry mismatch.....this is just a pitiful situation coz how do you force yourself to like a person beyond just merely appreciating their existence !!!!!
Some friends won't understand or will ridicule your hobbies or lack thereof..... ask questions like, why do you run?, you mean you don't go clubbing?, How do you pass your time then?.... Seriously why should I even give you a time of day???? Then you have colleagues...you should always distinguish btn colleagues & friends, & I think the perfect description of colleagues is "people you have to mingle with on a regular basis out of no choice of your own", do not mistake these for friends. You maintain a Civil professional relationship and that's it
Then there are those friends you will lose coz of the choice in spouse that you made, or better yet, you got married & worse were in love....Some people who claim to be your friends won't appreciate that, so you will definitely lose them in the process. Some friends (normally of the opposite sex) stop talking to you coz you got married.....now those are just childish...there is a difference between being respectful & just childish, coz most of the time these friends expect you to ask the question *what's wrong? Why are you different towards me?*, seriously??????????
For me one definition of a friend is "someone I can afford to not communicate with sometimes for a period longer than a year, not because we had a fall out or any bad blood, but because it just happened, but after that year I can still send you an sms & say "hi I'm in town", or I'm by the reception at your office, or say whatever I want to say, without that person giving me a response that goes "hawu, where have you been all this time""....Dude we have lives, you ought to accept that, well a friend ought to accept that. Friendship should be effortless, friends who are always complaining to you, (awusangishayeli ngani, awusangicoceli kutsi (why don't you call me anymore)....... ) you forget we are not 15yrs old anymo, we have lives, you c a boyfriend/spouse can nag, not sure how far boyfriends' rights go, but when a friend starts having boyfriend tendencies it becomes EFFORTFUL (is there such a word?), a big no no no #KnowYourFriends
A friend will not complain about a friend who makes too many posts on FB coz one, you have the "unfriend" or "unfollow" option, then you have the "hide posts" option too, and then you even have the "block" option...All of which you are allowed to use without me knowing that you have enabled them...Now it is not my fault that you don't know how to use FB & as such can't use these options while at the same time, my profile, my rules.......yes I do use those options by the way.
"You didn't tell me you were getting married" is one of the questions some friends ask...my question becomes....is one to release a memo to everyone when they're getting married???? Some say this as a joke, but some actually take it personal that that memo wasn't sent out to them, like dude, of all the things I had to worry about in preparation for my wedding, you expected to be a priority too?????
Then there are those friends who just truly care for you and you them. They understand you, your lifestyle, your hobbies, your shortcomings, your reactions, your background.....They are a true blessing from God and I'm blessed to have friends that do fall under this category. They make life a breeze.....you can always rely on them for anything. Their maturity, their gentleness in addressing you is priceless. God bless these wonderful people #KnowYourFriends
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