To the Father of My Children- A Short Tribute

A tribute to the father of my children in the spirit of "give credit where its due". So this man that i married, i thought i knew him, i thought i knew him well as my husband, but seems everyday i learn to understand the new him, the doting, caring even warm father. The things he does with/for the kids leave me with that warm, fuzzy feeling most times, not necessarily because i thought he wasn't capable of doing them but i guess i never thought of him that way, i really don't know. The way he wants to spend time with the kids & bond with them, the way he feels so guilty when he gets home & finds them (one or both) sleeping, the way he always plays santa clause & carries them goodies when he gets home, tho this sometimes makes me feel like a bad mom coz i carry nothing, yes at some point i found myself passing by the store n buying goodies coz i wasn't going to be outplayed by him 🙈🙈🙈🙈 , yes parenting can make u do that at times, the patience he displays when he takes his time to eat with the kids, something i simply fail to do bcoz it becomes such a messy affair, yes, he eats with both of them & the kids (especially the young one) in turn smear u with avocado, on ur face, clothes etc, but somehow he finds fun in that, i still don't know how. Yes i'm the type of parent who prefers eating while standing next to the deep freezer just so nana doesn't see my food then wants me to do like daddy does #ShootMe . He goes out with the 4 year old, like yes, they go out together for i assume boy's time out, he simply requests for his bag to be packed with the usual goodies & off they go, they go for haircuts together, yes i've never taken my son for haircut, this is something they do together, u shd see the majesticism (i swear that is a word) my son exudes when he is from a boy's day out with daddy, & utters words like "ngbuya kuyohula majita", as if to say, ladies rn't welcome there *rolls eyes*. The other day on the weekend he was bathing them, yes both of them, another very messy affair coz nana wants to splash water onto the floor, but somehow he took his time to simply spend time with them in the water, that too left a very fuzzy warm feeling in my stomach. I heard him utter the words to nana the other day saying "as soon as u can walk, I'll go out with u & Zawi", again warm fuzzy feeling

The other night Daddy & Zawi were sharing daddy's cup of tea, he somehow has taught Zawi to dip a fat cake into the tea, then he phuphutsas the fatcake for Zawi, then Zawi eats it. I think i'm a sissy, i thot it was so khyut.
Did i mention the part where when we r home, the moment nana hears daddy's voice, he simply gets hysterical, looks around at where the voice is coming from & is simply untouchable til daddy picks takes him. I always laugh at this coz it makes daddy so happy that once he is in the room nana wants noone else buy him, but when he wants to do something else & wants someone else to carry nana, nana simply refuses, then it doesn't get funny.

Anyway, to the father of our children, i pray God grants you many many more years ahead so that your kids get to experience more of your warm, kind, loving heart. You make parenting seem easy. Your love for the kids blows me away. Motsa Mvulane Loluhlata Lonjengengcoshane, awuyidle indlebe yenkhomo uyinika mankengane, wena lohamba ngemvula, Motsa.